Updated: May 20
Cut The Cruddy Self Talk I want to talk with you about Negativity and Positivity....
Did you know, that how you talk affects so many levels of your life, from your perception of others, to yourself to behaviour and how you automatically consider things?
Changing your vocational repertoire is a great way to progressively work through changing your outlook and ultimately your life. You always have a choice. You always get to choose. By you shifting to that perspective, you regain some semblance of power over yourself and that inner negative nancy you’ve been harbouring!
𝓦𝓞𝓡𝓓𝓢 𝓐𝓡𝓔 𝓟𝓞𝓦𝓔𝓡𝓕𝓤𝓛 What a lot of people often use with slight variations - “I hate…” “I have to…” “You never…” “I should…” "It always happens to me..."
What we really should be using - “I love…” “I want to…” “I choose to…” “I’m great at…” "I ‘am grateful that..."
Do you realise the potential power that one negative thought or comment has over your entire thought process? Negative self-talk can come in a variety of forms and we've all fallen victim to ourselves at one point or another.
Did you know that how you think and how you talk to yourself also affects your horse and determines so many factors during training, competing and general day to day riding? Life is a mental game, your mind is the most powerful tool you can ever have.
Our inner critic has a lot to answer for, it pops up at the most inconvenient times and can utter phrases that range from “Why does this always happen to me?” to “I’m completely useless” “I am going to knock a drum today I just know it”.
Whatever way you look at it, the effects of how we speak to ourselves can be extremely harmful to our self-esteem. The causes of such talk can be influenced by outside sources such as family or friends, it can come from social media or from others at sporting events. But in all cases, negative self-talk comes from within us.
When listened to for many years, this negative self-talk can completely shape lives and manifest itself in limiting beliefs which stop us from achieving the life we truly want
Maybe you struggle with it on a daily basis to the point it can affect your:
Confidence & Self esteem
Outlook on life
Entire thought process
Ability to think clearly
Does any of this resonate with you?
Do negative comments leave you feeling defeated?
Does the constant barrage of negativity on social media leave you feeling down and out?
The great news is that you also have the power to develop a mental fortitude to the point that you stop allowing it to affect you so you can have:
Ability to ignore Negative self-talk
Stop the negative thought process
Intensify your focus
Regain your confidence
Happy Positive Outlook
Be confident in your own abilities
What would it mean for you to be able to block the chatter out of your life and not let it affect you as much? What if you could learn to change your thought process one step at a time?
What if you could take easy practical steps that help you regain your confidence, or help you to gain that competitive edge, what if you could change your own narrative?
I've developed many processes for myself over the years that assist me in being able maintain all the good in life and block out the majority of the bad, even when things seem to be going wrong.
One verse I use for myself to halt the chatter, “They don't serve champagne at pity parties”. It can sometimes be met with “Well you don’t like champagne anyway”, but alas this is not the point. It interrupts the one way track the inner critic wants you on, giving you the opportunity to make a change right then and there.
What has she done that makes her think she can do it and show me how to do it too, I hear you ask? Well I have done a lot of different things in my life, and by having of experienced so many different things, it gives me the ability to be able to talk about the before, during and after aspect of each specific experience, and at some point, one of those things may resonate with you.
I am teachable, I don’t ever think I cannot be shown an alternative way of doing things that could be better or utilize and implemented into my own life. I strive to be open minded, practice what I preach and continue to be on a never ending quest to be better than I was yesterday.
I can show you practical and easy steps that can assist towards developing an inner strength you didn't think was possible or maybe you thought you had lost, if you choose to implement them.
I will be ensuring that this topic is covered at all my Clinics in the future, and this will also be covered in the upcoming “Program Ride Fit”, coming soon to the website. If you are interested please sign up as a member on the website for exclusive first time offers.
And remember, whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are right.